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Tuesday, October 04, 2005

Disagreement is a normal and welcomed event in any relationship. When we don’t have contradicting opinions, it’s either we are insincere with ourselves or we are deceptive. Remember the saying, “When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary”.

As friends we should be truthful and honest with each other about our feelings and opinions. We should be able to look at each other in the face to correct ourselves.

However when we disagree, we should be careful not to allow sentiments becloud our sense of reasoning. It makes us foolish rather than wise. We should hit the issue not the person. We should avoid naggings and remembrance of mistakes done in the past. Friends are meant to subtract from the bad past and add to the future. They are meant to divide sorrow and multiply joy.

When we disagree, our temper should be in check. It is better to keep quiet when you are infuriated. Words spoken in anger are always senseless.

When one yells, the other should try to be quiet because when two people yell, there is no communication, just noise, bad vibrations and some madness.

Lastly, when we disagree, we should learn to promptly apologize. The sentence ‘I am sorry for getting mad at you’ has healed many relationship and has driven better point home than the shouting and yelling.